Jannat bhara ghar

جنّت بھرا گھر 

 

میرے چار بچے ایک پیاری سی بیوی 
یہ بچے نہیں ہیں ، یہ بیوی نہی ہے 
مگر پھر یہ حوروں سے بھی کم نہیں ہیں 
کسی کہ یہ آنسو وجہ سے نہیں 
کسی کی ہنسی کا بدل بھی نہیں 
کبھی یوں ہی اظہار میں چیخ پڑنا 
کبھی سر میں انگلی اور بالوں کا ملنا 
یہ کپڑے نا ملنا یہ ہوم ورک کی ٹینشن 
وہ کھانا پکانے کا مشکل سوال 
میرے ہی جوابوں پے مجھ کو سنانا 
پھر ماسی کی ٹینشن بہت ہی نرالی 
پھر اس کا نہ آنا اور پوچے لگانا 
ویکینڈ پر میرے پکے ہوے انڈے 
میرے ہی پکے اور جلے سے پراٹھے 
یہ سب ہے تو میں ہوں ، یہ سب ہے تو تم ہو 
کے اظہار کا وقت ملتا نہیں 
تمہیں چاہنے کا وقت ملتا نہیں 
مگر یہ سمجھ لو 
میری ہر نظر اور میری مسکراہٹ 
تمہیں چاہتی ہے ، تمھیں مانتی ہے 
کہ دنیا میں جنّت بھرا گھر یہی ہے  

My Heart

My heart went out in the morning, with crying eyes,

The hands that waved at me, the touch that was always magical,

I can feel those little fingers, making waves in my thin white hairs,

These fingers that plucked my pains, erased tiredness,

Is lost in this cruel, relentless world of wild animals......

#PeshawarAttack

Daughters...

Stars descend to my home in this night,

Moon envied, 
Clouds bit shocked,

Sun perplexed,
Sky bit dimmed,

It's all because,
I have the treasure,

Buried in the soil of my heart,

They must have come,
To see it around,

To look how it shines, 
To see how it glows

And yes it does glow, 
Shinier than stars, 
And brighter than sun

It is all priceless, 
And no one can pay

The love for me,
That is hidden in her eyes,

It fills up my heart, 
With all the wealth of this world,

Can all be seen, 
And never can be stolen,

So please go away, 
It's not for you,

For their cuddles are brighter than stars!

The Silent World!

This ocean's quietness,

My heart's emptiness, 

That lies with me, 

Seems so subtle,

Looks at unease,

These waves all kinetic,

Makes logic mystic,

Yet, I can feel

The water’s depth

And the numbness of my eyes,

Will never go along,

These eyes will need,

Few drops of emotion,

To make me touch,

The base of this ocean,

And then I can sight,

From the ocean’s eyes,

Which find companions,

In this silent world

The Doggy Project Manager

For a Project Manager human beings do not exists on this planet, rather what they see are dogs. Every stakeholder is ready to take a bite of your flesh, until and unless they are satisfied that they have eaten enough meat and drank enough blood to their satisfaction. And since you see everyone as a dog, you always get treatment like dogs. Wait, sit, drink and go are normal instructions that they have to follow. Don't take stress if you are new project manager, you will soon be accustomed to these traditions.

Therefore as a project manager, your first priority should be PROTECTION. How to protect yourself from external and internal blows? Get things done at the right time. A project manager is always caught if he has not done his homework before the meeting. He needs to understand the audience, and then be prepared on what is going to come to him, and what should be the answers. A lazy project manager is therefore a doggy project manager. He himself is inviting people to treat him like one! Self-protection is one aspect, second is to protect your team. And the second aspect is more dangerous. Because if the customer bites your team member; than the rest of the members, technical lead, CTO and customer will get a good taste of your flesh.

Second and most important, is to understand the requirements of your boss's boss. The message that comes through hierarchy has least reach-ability. And this is common in organizations. So every time you get exposed to management, you start giving a look of a monkey trying to only grab couple of bananas, out of the bunch hanging on the tree. So be smart and play smart. Your CEO is also a monkey; it is just that he wants to see many bananas on the table. The more the bananas the bigger the dollar sign in your CEO eyes, and better you are as a project manager

And then who forgets documentation? You are right, only the doggy project manager forgets to document the commitments. So if you want to live a life of a lion, then document critical decisions during project execution. Humans; be it in business or professional services; are biggest liars. And they would never want to let go any chance to manipulate.

Lastly it is the personal life of project managers. Due to their intense experience on the field, they gradually become skilled liars. They normally put lags, and use delay tactics in their personal life. They know how to manage expectations in some way or the other, so the personal life of project manager is normally balanced, and far better than their technical counterparts. 

If only I can try: Vote for yourself

Don't let it go, don't let the hope die

Please then not blame, and then don't cry

For all that may be done in next few years

It's what we yearned, and never realized

That just one stamp, and just one vote

Could have bought fortune, may have bought luck

And this may not end, if we do not wish

As destiny is in our hands, so please don't hush

Let evil make exit from our lives and home

And let them know, this lands' not for them

Let's hope for a sunshine, without any clouds

Our soul be free, and will be untied,

From fear, from despair of all we have lost

The true essence of a word that is called Freedom

That we once celebrated with harmony and joy

With peace in sand and an affectionate sky

Will soon touch my home, if only I can try

Taken for grrranted...

Are you one of the kinds of human species, who would always react with a thought "I am always taken for granted"? The term is commonly used when the person on your other side no longer "APPRECIATE" and rather start "EXPECTING" what is not part of your responsibilities. 

This is just one simple thing that disables the companies to excel. If the resources are not appreciated and just "taken for granted" for something that they are not even responsible for, it actually creates an element of frustration. Realization and communication are therefore key reactions if one would like to create anti-frustration environment. Imagine a CEO or department head, passing through the corridor and just stopping by one of the resources, to praise and thank for the contribution being done in the last week cut-over activity. I believe praising in public is 10 time more effective then praising in private. On the other hand a public insult is 100 time more destructive and devastating; though the person may have done a mistake, but it will create an element of hatred.

This element has an equally negative impact on relationships. Something that one of the partner may contribute in crucial time for the other, may become a life long expectation for the other. Every relation needs appreciation. Whether it is your spouse, child, parent or a friend. Make a habit of appreciating and thanking others, at times, when some one tries to go beyond the normal actions only to serve or give a helping hand to you. It is just a matter of communicating couple of good gesture sentences, a thank-you SMS or an email. 

Small thing matters, and count in a big way in long run!